Be proud of yourself, celebrate your SELF.
It’s very important to first build up a connection with yourself and then move to others.
We are never really satisfied with what we do, maybe because we are afraid we are not going to meet the expectation of society or maybe we compare our self with others. I feel we should compare us with our progress over a time period, because that is what will make us happy and proud. One should have the power of being self-happy, being independent without the need of other person in our life. How are you supposed to help someone, when you are not okay yourself?
There is no official guide that helps you love yourself , as it takes time and patience and there will be many ups and down in the process .
So we should try doing few steps which will push you towards the right direction:
We are always strict with ourselves because we keep on thinking about the mistakes we have done in our past. We can’t change the past, but we can change our attitude towards it and make sure that it doesn’t get repeated. What happened in your past doesn’t have to dictate your future.
- Accept what you are
Life is all about changes and its unpredictable make choices and decisions you are proud of. In case you are not happy with your present self, start working on it because no one self is going to come and do that for you. Accept your body, your appearance, your facial complexion, stop finding flaws in yourself.
- Travel around
Travelling helps you to be more aware and explore yourself. Travelling doesn’t always mean going to a new city or a country but even to a new street, a new place. Spend some time with yourself, with things you like to do. Talk to random people on streets; try to know their language, culture, belief.
- Try new things
Following passion is one thing or maybe doing routine task is a casual thing but devote some time to try new things which you feel you are not good at , try drawing , painting , cooking , clicking pictures, trying new food ,dancing , no one is going to judge you . Do it for yourself and your happiness.
Some Myths which I came across:
- Self-love is all about pampering yourself (you must have come across this on social media a lot of times) but that’s not the case as it’s just talks about the appearance and portrays how much importance we give to looks. It’s just a temporary phase. Self-love is quite deeper.
- Many people also think that self-love is selfish. As you can’t depend on someone else to love yourself. Someone else should not be the reason you appreciate yourself. Be careful with who surround yourself with, as they can make or break you. You may be afraid to be alone, if you don’t like the people around their habits, their behavior towards other, the way they treat you as you don’t owe anyone. Remember the negative people in your life are like chains attached to your ankles; they will drag you down and will use you for their own benefit.
Make some healthy changes in your life. Grow wherever your current circumstances is, don’t play a victim card as you can’t be a victim and victorious at same time. Build up connections which make you feel valued and important but first build it up with you. Every situation can be handled with patience, have control over your mind; Obstacle or stepping stone? That’s up to you. The more you love yourself, the more love you can spread to others with positive vibes.